Adjusting to Life After Graduating College

If you are graduating college, I highly recommend you watch this:
BF Skinner talking about depression from moving from one city to another; at 8:50 he talks about the common experience of college students feeling depressed after graduating:


- i took "mental control" of a lot more areas of my life once i graduated college; i.e. i felt personally responsible to make decisions about certain things and so i started thinking very hard about things i hadn't previously dedicated much time to (like what kind of career I should go into, where I should live, and just what I want my life to look like in general).

- once i started living on my own and had my own job, i started to feel more comfortable with the idea of not trying to please everyone I come across and having some people upset at me.



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Advice for others who are graduating
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- overview: basically you want to take care of all of your needs; use maslow's hierarchy as a guide
- your first two concerns should be: 1) finding a job, and 2) finding a place to live in an area with lots of people your age (e.g. parts of brooklyn, the east village, etc.).
- if you are a guy, you should aim to live near a university where you can continue to date women who are younger than you. if you're well-groomed and doing something with your life then the women will be happy to date you, so don't worry about being "that guy who's still sticking around college". again, though, make sure you have your life figured out; if you don't have your life figured out then that may be a point against you for women.
- aim to have your job and room be within a 10-15 minute bicycle ride of each other.
- after that your next goal is to find activities through which to make friends. the big problem i've seen so far is that many activities cost a lot of money ($10+ per session). the Washington Sports Club in DC, though, is only ~$70/mo and you can attend tons of classes for no additional charge.