Cheating

A letter from Nicole Brown Simpson to OJ Simpson
- She mentions being very hurt by his cheating
- I knew what went on in our relationship before we got married. I knew after 6 years that all the things I thought were going on -- were! All the things I gave in to -- all the "I'm sorry for thinking that" "I'm sorry for not believing you" -- "I'm sorry for not trusting you."
  I made up with you all the time & even took the blame many times for your cheating. I know this took place because we fought about it alot & even discussed it before we got married with my family & a minister.
  OK before the marriage I lived with it & dealt with (illegible) mainly because you finally said that we weren't married at the time.
  I assumed that your recurring nasty attitude & mean streak was to cover up your cheating & a general disrespect for women & a lack of manners!
  I remember a long time ago a girlfriend of yours wrote you a letter -- she said well you aren't married yet so let's get together. Even she had the same idea of marriage as me. She believed that when you marry you wouldn't be going out anymore -- adultery is a very important thing to many people.
  (...)
  There was also that time before Justin & after few months Sydney, I felt really good about how I got back into shape and we made out. You beat the holy hell out of me & we lied at the X-ray lab & said I fell off a bike ... Remember!??
  (...)
  I just don't see how that compares to infidelity, wife beating verbal abuse

Grooming changes (e.g. weight gain)

A letter from Nicole Brown Simpson to OJ Simpson
- She mentions that he was very upset at her weight gain
- I let my guard down -- I thought it was finally gonna be you & me -- you wanted a baby (so you said) & I wanted a baby -- then with each pound you were terrible. You gave me dirty looks looks of disgust -- said mean things to me at times about my appearance walked out on me & lied to me.
  (...)
  I gained 10 to 15 lbs more that I should have with Sydney. Well that's by the book -- Most women gain twice that. It's not like it was that much -- but you made me feel so ugly! I've battled 10 lbs up & down the scale since I was 15 -- It was no more X-tra weight than was normal for me to be up
  (...)
  I just don't see how our stories compare -- I was so bad because I wore sweats & left shoes around & didn't keep a perfect house or comb my hair the way you liked it -- or had dinner ready at the precise moment you walked through the door or that I just plain got on your nerves sometimes.

Comparing your partner to other people

John T. Reed talks in his book 'Succeeding' about how dating a lot of women helped guard him against this tendency, because he knew that the grass wasn't as green on the other side of the fence as it might look. For example, he dated beauty queens and models, but he got annoyed at how they couldn't eat a burger because they were so careful about not gaining any weight.
2013.05.21 - Georgia Newsday - OJ's ex-girlfriend claims he was 'obsessed with Nicole Brown Simpson'
- 'It was very hard to deal with that everyday, comparing me to Nicole. "Nicole did this, Nicole did that. You should do this, that’s what she did,"' she told Inside Edition. She went on to say that he suggested she dye her naturally brunette hair bleach blonde in order to match his tastes- which made her look remarkably similar to his slain ex wife.

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